I’m 23, going on 24 and a lot of people my age already have children, their own home and some are even married.
This scares me immensely and I cannot even fathom myself being in that situation.
Luke will be 27 this year, so of course for him this would also be the next step, but he also agrees with me, it just doesn’t feel like the next step in life for us to take.
Ever since a young age, I did what I was supposed to do. I went to school, then straight onto college and straight to university. I never took a gap year and I never deferred a year at uni. So normally, the next step after this is to save, save, save until we can afford to buy a house. I am skint, and I will probably be skint for a long time, so it’s safe to say a house is most definitely not on the cards for me right now.
I can’t say for five years down the line… I may end up having my dream home. Who knows!
Of course, we have spoken about having a home, mainly because it’s easier to store all of our stuff in one place, rather than in storage, or at a parent’s house, but it’s not on the horizon for us just yet and i’m ok about that.
As disheartening as it can be to see everyone around me getting homes and going on luxury holidays, I just know I am not the type of person to save for an all inclusive holiday to Benidorm. I need that adventure, and something that you cannot do in two weeks at a time. Something that means I’ll be off grid for a month, the holiday is the adventure itself.
Now I do not mean any disrespect to anyone who goes to Benidorm here! So please don’t take that the wrong way. I’d love a relaxing holiday from time to time too, but I just couldn’t do the same type of holiday time and time again. I guess I thrive for more in life, without having the ability to reach it.
I guess i’m a dreamer? But as the great John Lennon once said… i’m not the only one.
I really do admire those people that have figured out how to get their life on track an have all of those things under their belt, it takes a lot to get to that point, and I know for a fact I wouldn’t even know where to start. I struggle to know what i’m eating for tea on the same day, so knowing that I own a homeowner would be a little bit overwhelming for myself, to say the least.
After I graduated, something inside of me changed. I used to follow the rules and I walked the pathway that was carved out by life itself. Not knowing what happened, I just knew I didn’t want to do that anymore. I didn’t want to continue in the field I got my degree in, not in the literate way anyway.
I knew I had an interest in fashion, and I knew I had an interest in design, but the world of Fashion is not as glamorous as people think. It is The Devil Wears Prada, but worse. I didn’t want to spend my time struggling to live in the city that I needed to be in to succeed. I HAD to be there if I were to make it. I didn’t want to live my life doing things I was ‘supposed’ to do anymore.
I may not be where I want to be, or where I thought I would be at this age, but I am so much happier.
My parents got married in their early twenties, and I just panic at that thought. Of course I do want to get married, and it will be to Luke, but that’s another thing that isn’t going to be traditional, or anytime soon for that matter.
Times may change and circumstances may mean that we do have a very traditional wedding, but we have spoken about running away and eloping. Who knows, we may not even get married at all, and just live life content in each other’s company. Too many people get divorced these days, and I know most of them were much happier before they tied the knot. Marriage is too romanticised about and I don’t want to fall down the rabbit hole and end up coming out the other end alone.
I know eloping would come as a shock to a lot of people, not having their closest loved ones there to witness it, but I think our parents now know we’re not the ordinary type. I hope they know that anyway.
We like to live our life in the moment, and not take planning to a solid level, we’ve made plans in the past and boy they’ve never bloody worked out in the end!
Life should always be seen as an adventure, and I do think it’s up to us what that adventure is. Whether it’s building our way up to the top of a company, making a family, or just winging life and whatever obstacles get thrown at you, life really should be an adventure and that’s what i’m enjoying most right now.
I also don’t think I would be where I am if it wasn’t for my other half, in the literary sense too. I wouldn’t be in Budapest if he didn’t apply for the job he now has.
For right now, the life I want is a free life. We want to save our money, and eventually spend the majority of our life on the road. One day buying a home, so we always have a basecamp, and then we can get back out there and tick off the next bucket list item (if our travel plans are something you’re interesting in I’d happily do a post on what our ideal road trip would be)?
We had the opportunity to move anywhere in the world when this job became available to us, and we decided to play it safe and stick to what we knew, and somewhere that was close enough to home. Granted it is Eastern Europe, but we wish we took a bigger leap of faith in what we were doing.
A place that we are really lusting after living in, is Tokyo. I think when the next opportunity arises, that will be the next stop for a few months or even years.
I know the next few years are going to be unpredictable. Whether it is good or bad.